Seeing me

December 5th, 2007

Thinking about relationship again in the shower. For some reason this morning it would not get hot and I had to fiddle with the controls a bit before it finally worked properly. What a difference between a cold and a hot shower! Only a minute difference in degrees but what a difference in comfort and a feeling of well being. A few microscopic organisms have just given me a week of suffering and discomfort with a very bad sore throat and a cold. They were responsible for sapping my energy and zest for reading and research. I felt that I wanted only to withdraw from others and cosset myself in my misery. Yesterday I awoke feeling better and feeling, literally, a different person from the one I had been the week before.

We are what we are only in the context of our physical, biological, social, psychological, philosophical and perceptual relationships. If I want to understand ‘me’ I must be aware, not only of each of them, but also that I transcend them. This transcendence is the most mysterious thing of all. The biological ‘me’ can be understood but don’t forget to take into account the influence on it of the psychological ‘me’. The psychological and the gregarious ‘me’s’ are so intertwined that they cannot really be separated. Then there is the egoistic ‘me’, that private person that no one, not even I, I sometimes think, know fully. And then, there is the ‘I’ who transcends all of these. As often as not the ‘I’ is not on stage. His role has been usurped by one of the ‘me’s’. But who is this ‘I’? Is he more fundamental than the ‘me’s’, or is he simply the agent of the currently dominant ‘me’? Are the ‘me’s’ ephemeral psychosocial constructs educed at different times by different environments? Or is the ‘I’ the centre of conscious awareness capable of transcending the empirical ‘me’s’ and the physical sensorium? Just as the ‘me’ as agent is evoked by a specific psychosocial environment and particular physical needs, so too, perhaps is the ‘I’ evoked by an awareness of transcendence.

“I shall never forget what I have never revealed to anyone, the phenomenon which accompanied the birth of my consciousness of self and of which I can specify both the place and the time.  One morning, as a very young child, I was standing in our front door and was looking over the wood pile on the left, when suddenly the inner vision ‘I am me’ shot down before me like a flash of lightening from the sky, and ever since it has remained with me luminously: at that moment my ego had seen itself for the first time and for ever.“

(Jean Paul Richter, quoted in Glover J., I: The Philosophy and Psychology of Personal Identity, (1989) Penguin, London p59)

This is a (rare?) example of what Karl Jaspers called a ‘limiting situation’.  In the awareness of limits one is aware of the transcendent as the negatively comprehended complement of limits.  In other words one is not aware of a limit as limit if one has not somehow seen beyond it.  We are not normally aware of the limits of consciousness just as we are not normally aware of the limits of our vision (this is why the figure of eight sideways, to depict vision through binoculars, on the screen jars our sensibilities.  This is not how we normally see, through binoculars or otherwise.)  Yet we know that both are limited.  It is from this that our difficulty in grasping consciousness arises – and hence the difficulty in defining it, describing it.  We cannot, from within our subjective perspective, perceive our awareness objectively, no more than the eye can see itself seeing.  By reflection the eye can see itself and the consciousness can grasp itself; but just as the eye (through the mirror) sees no more than the outer surface of the organ of sight, so too, analogously, reflective awareness is no more than the surface of the stream of consciousness and sees neither the banks, nor the depths beneath, much less the origin.

Integrity again

December 4th, 2007

Thinking again about integrity – the shower in the morning is a great place for thinking. The mind is fresh after the night’s sleep and ideas that have been percolating in the unconscious begin to emerge. To love requires a beloved. In theory everyone we encounter, in fact everyone, should be the beloved. In practice this is not so easy. Being unselfish and putting the other person first comes easily when there are feelings and emotions as a driving force. When this is not the case, especially today in our crowded, impersonal urban society, it is almost impossible to make every encounter of the hundreds each day a personal encounter. Even if it were possible it would not be tolerated by the hurrying crowds who regard their impersonal anonymity as a shield, or defence. And so we, inevitably, slip into the prevailing mode of blind unconcern. Caught in the rush of traffic it would be impractical to stop for the stranded motorist. That is the job of the police. Hurrying to catch the train there is no time to help the harassed mother manoeuvre her pushchair and three toddlers  down the escalator. Apart from those with whom we have a personal relationship we have little or no time for the others we meet.

This is why integrity might be something more easily put into practice. It begins by being ‘about me’ and self interest always has a flying start. But who am I and what does it mean to have integrity? ‘Who am I?’ is the $64,000 question. One of the reasons why there is no easy answer to it is because as humans we operate on many different levels, often on more than one level at a time. (I am not sure that level is the right word. Mode, or dimension might be better.)

There is a physical-biological dimension of being a body. Much time is devoted to feeding this body, moving it from place to place, washing and grooming it, tending to its wounds and hurts and, finally, just relaxing and resting. Much of this is automatic and does not involve specific mental effort.

There is a feeling-emotional dimension. Here the reciprocity between the physical and mental states is very marked. Physical well-being can produce an emotional high. Illness can cause depression. Mental stress can produce physical effects such as headaches and ulcers. Hormones and psychoactive chemicals can determine mood and mental states. These in turn have a profound effect on the personality. Emotions authenticate meaning. Einstein’s formula E=mc2 may determine the shape of the cosmos but as an abstract concept its meaning is negligible compared to that of a child holding its mother’s hand. Emotions and feelings shape our sense of morality, of what is right and wrong. Traditional Christian spirituality, influenced by Platonic dualism, saw the body as, if not evil, at least an obstacle to spiritual development. Physical urges, feelings and emotions were to be kept in check and, as much as possible, denied. Agere contra was the Jesuit watchword. The body would die eventually but the soul would ascend to heaven. At the general resurrection it would be united with a transformed body, a risen body. More about the spiritual later.

There is a social dimension. We become persons as a result of social interaction. We learn language from others. Language is the major factor in our mental development. We discover our sense of self and of self-worth as a result of being loved. It is in this social dimension where most people find their life has meaning. Life is about loving and being loved, raising a family, enjoying friendships, engaging in interactions with others in work and in projects. Existential  questions such as ‘Who am I?’ and ‘What is the meaning of life?’ only present themselves here in what Jaspers called ‘limit situations’ – times of birth, marriage and death.

There is a mental dimension. This is the dimension of stories, ideas and concepts, of maths, logic and philosophy. It is also the dimension of poetry, music and drama. These last  have strong emotional content but all have some feeling attached. Even the most abstract branches of mathematics have beauty and the feeling of knowing truth. 

There is a spiritual dimension. This exists at all levels. What spiritual means is not easy to explain. Generally it is defined as opposing matter, or the body; to do with the mind and with religion. Etymologically it comes from the Greek pneuma,  breath, and from nous, mind – the principle of order in things. For St. Augustine it was the apex of the mind, the personal and dynamic point of contact and encounter between God and man. St. Thomas Aquinas, taking his ideas from Aristotle, saw the soul as the form of the body, that which gives it individual substance. Descartes held that reality was twofold, matter and mind – res cogitans. This dividing of reality into two, matter and spirit, or matter and mind, is at the root of our difficulty of trying to understand what it means to be human. While mentally I can distinguish myself from my body, this is a mental abstraction. I am not two, a body and a soul. What I am is a living body, yet at the same time I transcend my body. Spirit is a ‘presence’. I am present to myself.*

 I am present to others, as they are to me. I am present to nature, as it is to me. Finally, I am present to the Transcendent (I say Transcendent because He does not have a name. ‘Tell them ‘I am’ sent you.’) – not all the time (though I believe that it is always present to me) but on those luminous occasions when the fabric of reality becomes translucent and I become aware of the infinite depths of being. According to Karl Rahner – ‘Spirit is ‘greater’ than man, as Pascal says, “l’homme passe infiniment l’homme”, not in the sense that it is alien or extrinsic to man, but in the sense that man is only what he is by being thus ‘greater’ than himself. The most essential thing in man is not a self-sufficient subjectivity, but a constant opening out beyond himself, which we call his being ‘there’, the presence of being disclosing itself as mystery.’

This is integrity – being open to the mystery within and to the mystery within the others we encounter and responding accordingly; being present to others as we are present to ourselves.

*[There is the presence of the object to the subject, of the spectacle to the spectator; there is also the presence of the subject to himself, and this is not the presence of another object dividing his attention, of another spectacle distracting the spectator; it is presence in, as it were, another dimension, presence concomitant and correlative and opposite to the presence of the object. Objects are present by being attended to but subjects are present as subjects, not by being attended to, but by attending. As the parade of objects marches by, spectators do not have to slip into the parade to be present to themselves; they have to be present to themselves for anything to be present to them (Lonergan, 1967, p. 226, quoted in McCarthy, Michael H. (1990), The Crisis in Philosophy (Albany: SUNY Press). , 1990, p. 234).]

Being a person

December 3rd, 2007

This question of what it means to be a human person keeps circulating through my thoughts – especially in the early hours of the morning in the intervals between waking and returning to sleep. I am sure Whitehead’s  event metaphysics is a better way to approach this problem than the classical metaphysics of Plato or Aristotle. The dualist approach cannot be right – much as we would like it to be. It would so simplify things. For me the biggest problem is understanding what is meant by the soul. Is it the individual self-consciousness of being a person? I don’t think so. Self-consciousness only begins to emerge a year after birth. Is it the organising life-force which drives the process of being human? Both the egg and the sperm are separately alive. At the moment of conception they lose their individual identities and become one. There is a non-material force which drives the development of the embryo – perhaps something analogous to Sheldrake’s morphic resonance. Is this the soul? I think this was Polkinghorne’s mistake. He identified the soul with what he called the organising pattern and of course this comes to an end with death. But there is more to soul than being the form of the body. You only have to look at a child, for example, to see that there is more here than a living body. There is a person, a presence. Is this what the soul is? If so when does the person come into existence and what happens to the person on the death of the body?

You can see, looking at young children, how quickly a baby becomes a person. At one moment, it almost seems, there is a little baby, barely distinguishable from any other baby – mother excepted, the next there is a little person with unique characteristics and idiosyncrasies. We know from the studies by people like Bowlby that a loving environment is required if the person is to develop and where this is absent, development is inhibited and damaged people result. I am inclined to think that the soul is the person. The problem with the word ‘soul’ is that it is a static term. It does not allow for growth, development and change. It is something we have, whereas a person is something we are. The problem too with the classical position is that it holds that the soul is created by God and infused by him into the body. I think souls grow. This growth is initiated by the love of the parents. Then all the various relationships in the life of the individual have a part to play. A relationship is like a dance in which each partner affects the other, weaving and shaping a pattern of formation. The closer and more intimate the relationship the greater is its power to form and change the person. This is why sin is so terrible. Sin is a destructive relationship which damages each and sometimes destroys one or both. Jesus had it so right when he put the emphasis on the inner attitude which precedes the outer action. Refraining from actions is not enough. The inner attitude has to be right.

From all this it would seem that the soul, the person, is not a self-contained individual entity. Our being is not confined to the limits of the body but extends outward and is intermingled with that of others. ‘The centre of the self is not limited to the interior of the individual; the self of a mother is to be found in her child.’ [Nishida Kitaro; Zen no Kenkyu, 1921. Translated as ‘An Enquiry into the Good‘ by Masao Abe and Christopher Ives. Newhaven CN: Yale University Press 1990]

 Donne was quite right. No man is an island entire of it self. I think also that Teilhard de Chardin has something in what he says about an evolution towards the Omega Point. The process is towards greater and greater unity – a merging of all the individual selves without the loss, but rather the enhancement, of individuality. This is similar to advaita non-dualism and to pantheism in general but with these individuality is lost. It begs the question, though, as to what individuality is, or rather, what the true self is. I agree with much that Buddhism has to say about anatta

Integrity

December 1st, 2007

I came across a marvellous story the other day in a talk given by Joseph Campbell on Hinduism. He was talking about the Indian concept of the spiritual value of performing ones duty, of acting in accordance with ones station in life. I would call it having integrity. During the time of the Emperor Ashoka the Ganges flooded and threatened the city.

Campbell goes on ‘Now there is an Indian notion that if you have fulfilled your life duty to perfection, you may perform what is known as an Act of Truth. You can say (and this is magic now): “If I have performed my duty without any trace of ego, but, like the sun rising and the sun setting, have done just what I should have done, every hour of my life, then let such and such happen!“ And such and such will happen. This is called an Act of Truth. For, since you are part of the organism of the universe, and perfectly so, you partake of the power of the universe. You have become a conduit of universal energy and can perform miracles.’ The Emperor asks whether there is anyone who can perform the Act of Truth and save the city by making the flood waters recede. Everyone shakes their heads – all the important people, the nobles, the priests, the merchants – not one has lived life with sufficient integrity. And then on the edge of the crowd an old prostitute says, ‘I can.’ And the waters begin to recede. The Emperor is astonished and he asks the woman how she, a wretched sinner, an outcast of society, could perform the Act of Truth. 

The woman replies,  “Whosoever gives me money, your Majesty, whether he be a Brahmin, Kshatriya, Vaishya, or Shudra, I treat him as any other. I make no distinction in his favour if he is Kshatriya; and if a Shudra, I do not despise him. Free both from fawning and from contempt, I serve the owner of the money. And this your Majesty, is the Act of Truth by which I caused the mighty Ganges to flow back upstream.”

The remarks of Jesus about prostitutes immediately spring to mind. The moral of the story is that any way of life whatsoever is a way to God, if followed faithfully, selflessly, in perfect humility. Perhaps ‘any’ is a bit too sweeping and needs to be qualified. There are certain ways of life which, by their nature, cannot be reconciled with what it means to be human. Hindus, with their more liberal attitude to sex, would not have a problem with prostitution, though Christians would. Buddhists rule out any occupation which involves killing, animals or men. The early Christians did not see how being a soldier could be compatible with being a Christian. Times have changed, as has society. Possessive individualism reigns supreme as a worldview (though there are signs that this is slowly changing) leading to the apotheosis of the individual. Fidelity, selflessness and humility are not seen as appropriate virtues, not if you want to be competitive and, as they say, competition is what it’s all about. 

To me integrity seems to be the key virtue. Love gets overloaded with sentimentality and with the idea that you have to like someone in order to love them. The concept agape is not understood, or where it is understood, is seen as impractical. Integrity, being true to yourself, is much easier to understand and appreciate – or would be if we each had a clear idea of what it means to be a self, a human being.

Being human

November 30th, 2007

I don’t think my mind is as good as it used to be. I find it difficult to take in what I am reading and I am very slow to see the implications and relate what I am reading to a wider context. This is disappointing because I so hoped to be able to write a book on what it means to be human. I keep doing the research, much more slowly now since my heart started playing up, but I am no nearer to putting it all together. I find it hard to grasp the wider picture. Part of the problem is a growing conviction that the answer is not something that can be put into words. It cannot be grasped intellectually but has to be experienced. I read an article evaluating the various theories of consciousness this morning. It was really beyond me and I struggled even to grasp the thread, never mind the distinctions within distinctions. The rational mind can be marvellously subtle when dealing with concepts and can weave the most elaborate tapestries with them. Nevertheless consciousness is simplicity itself, grasped in all its glorious immediacy without any intellection. I know what it is. I know many of its many states but I cannot explain it. No one can. Pascal was right when he said there were things only the heart can understand. 

Le coeur a ses raisons que la raison ne connaît point. 

Likewise what it means to be human is something I suspect can be grasped better by feeling and the emotions than intellectually.

Trivia

November 29th, 2007

I had never realised before how much time we spend on trivia. Elliot was right. We cannot bear too much reality. We flee from it and cultivate areas of interest which we invest with the utmost importance. ‘Oh, I couldn’t live without my….’ Or, ‘I must have my…’ I am no better than the next person. I do it just as much but I am also afflicted, if that is the right word, with the awareness that these preoccupations, in the greater scheme of things, count for nothing. They are pass-times – literally. 

This would not matter if Reality itself were not so elusive. At present it is a black hole, a yawning nothingness gaping open before me. At Mass the other day the priest spent long moments on a eulogy of a parishioner who had just died. He went on and on about how much he had done for the parish, how much he would be missed. I was wondering what this paragon had done when the priest went on to describe the hours the man had spent working on the drains in front. It was a moment of pure bathos and it was all I could do not to burst out laughing. Of course, drains are important, especially if they are not working properly. I suppose this should remind me that  am being too extreme. When it comes to human activity intention is all important. The intention of the doer can elevate the utterly trivial to the sublime. The reverse is also true. This is the incredible thing about being human. We have the power to turn the dross of humdrum activity into the pure gold of love. 

Answers

November 28th, 2007

In order to write some sort of guide for the perplexed one needs to have made the journey and achieved understanding. Knowledge is not a simple seeing, not just perception. It is far more complex than that. So often we see without seeing. Seeing involves registering that x is x, and putting it into context. But knowledge involves more than the simple awareness of what is there. It involves ‘how’ and above all ‘why’. It involves understanding the process – that there is a process in the first place and that the process is going somewhere.

There is also intuition. Long before understanding there is intuition – an unrealised, unarticulated awareness of, feeling for, the truth. Against all the evidence to the contrary the belief that conscious life does not end in death persists; in spite of the utter banality of so many lives, that life has meaning. You could say that we’re like tadpoles, busy navigating the weeds and the algae in the depths of the pond and oblivious that there is anything more – that there is an above-the-pond, a supra-pond world that tadpoles can never inhabit but frogs can – a world of depths and soaring heights and vast space where the sun warms and gives life. Or, like caterpillars gorging on the leaves of our daily preoccupations, blind to the terminating cocoon of the grave we are oblivious of the prospect of metamorphosis.  

We rarely stop to think and question. We have been conditioned to believe that because there are 100,000 answers there is no answer because they cannot all be right. Many do select the ‘right’ answer out of the 100,000 and put their faith and trust in it. And many are disappointed. They find that the answers were not really the answer after all. They discover inconsistencies and contradictions. They may shut their eyes to these for a while – for a long while sometimes. But the doubt remains and gnaws away at their sense of peace and security. Some stop asking questions at this stage. It is easier to get off the knife-edge of doubt and step down into the warm reassurances of the well-intentioned. Just believe and everything will be all right.

The problem is that there are no answers – at least no answers that can be put into words. There is an answer but because it cannot be put into words the most that can be done is to point the way. Each person has to find this answer for himself. And the strangest thing of all is that when we do finally realise the truth it turns out not to be something utterly strange, new and unheard of. When we find the answer we discover that in some curious way we have always known it. It has been part of us all along – or rather, we have been part of it. 

Who? and What?

November 27th, 2007

Today the effort to concentrate went better. There were still the trains of imagery and mental conversations, but about twenty minutes in to the meditation these seemed to die down and I found I could just concentrate on the breathing. The images continued but they were less distracting, running beside the awareness of the body and breathing. The strange thing is that they seemed to have nothing to do with me – talking heads I did not recognise. Some ancient memories when I was a young boy surfaced too. All these, however, were much less vivid than usual and easy to ignore. I am still faced with the problem of the barrier, as I call it. It is when there is nothing going on in the mind apart from simple awareness of breathing and of the body. This is the moment when I want to pierce through the darkness and the limitations of mere bodily existence – and nothing happens. Boredom quickly sets in and the mind becomes easy prey to distractions. I know there is a beyond because I have experienced it, but it is not accessible at will. All this raises the questions, ‘Who is the I?’ and ‘What is the beyond?’

Afternoon – meditated again for about 30 minutes. It was easier and took less time on this occasion to arrive at simple concentration. There were less hypnagogic phenomena but habituation leading to a sort of numbed drowsiness. Simply holding the attention there without any diminution of concentration or awareness is very difficult. Telling oneself that this limit of awareness is the threshold of the transcendent is not enough. The thought lasts for a few moments until it too merges into dull and unremarkable familiarity. Is there a barrier that can be penetrated? I don’t know whether those terms can apply. I am inclined to think that the Church’s attitude to Pelagianism, full-blown or semi, is right. The encounter with the Transcendent is a gift. All one can do is prepare for it by removing barriers and obstacles.

And yet – everyday reality is shot through with a divine luminance. When we look for it and try to grasp it it is not there. But in the quiet moments, moments when the hands are busy and the mind relaxed, it surprises us with a tranquil joy.

The still point

November 26th, 2007

Mentioning Basho the other day sparked off some reflections in my mind. Basho is famous for his poetry – haiku – short 17 syllable poems which capture, as Seamus Heaney puts it,  ‘the still centre of the moment’. A rare art to be able to communicate in just a handful of words a moment, a scene and the emotion evoked. The small splash which breaks the silence of a pond, a crow on a branch, black on black in the deepening gloom, a temple bell in the still evening, shadows cast by the moon – fragments of time when something beyond time is caught and fixed forever in mind – the ‘still  point’.

 

I was reminded of one day when walking down to the town I heard someone hammering, the hard metallic ring of a chisel on stone. It is a very particular sound and it evoked memories, tactile memories of the heaviness of the hammer, the judder of the arm as it strikes, hot hands, the dust and distinctive smell of crushed stone. A whole series of moments in my past were suddenly recalled and linked together. A Proustian moment in which past and present co-existed. For that moment, the inevitability of the passage of time, the dying of the ‘now’ and its burial in the past ceased. And I wondered about the metaphysical significance  of memory and awareness. What does this linkage of things and events in awareness tell us about the nature of reality? And what about that subliminal sense of a transcendent presence?

T. S. Eliot wrestled with all this in ‘Burnt Norton’, and reading it again I become aware of how much in the poem describes the experience of meditation.

Descend lower, descend only

Into the world of perpetual solitude,

World not world, but that which is not world,

Internal darkness, deprivation

And destitution of all property,

Desiccation of the world of sense,

Evacuation of the world of fancy,

Inoperancy of the world of spirit;

 

There in the empty darkness, sometimes, the ceaseless cycle of thoughts, feelings and fantasies stills and one enters the still point. And the Presence…? Sometimes when I am out walking along the cliffs I feel afraid to go too near the edge. Not because I am afraid of heights. On the contrary. But because standing there on the edge looking down to the sea far below I feel drawn, a terrible attraction, to throw myself over, to feel the fall, the rush of air, the utter freedom of an irrevocable future. But timid fear keeps me back. And so it is with the Presence. 

 

Mindfulness

November 24th, 2007

Some structure is necessary. The morning meditation begins the day well and puts everything in perspective. Sometimes the meditation has gone well and the mood it generates pervades the morning. Sometimes it goes badly. On the worst days it becomes impossible and the mind is like a Mexican jumping bean, unable to be still for a moment. Moods are important. Worry and anxiety are destructive and make stillness almost impossible. These are surface moods concerned with practical and material things, like money, or a leaking roof, or the boy’s activities, or is anyone ever going to buy our house. Suffering and anguish are helpful because these are deep moods and open up existential depths. They put everything in perspective and material anxieties are seen for the relatively inconsequential things that they are. Moods are important in setting the tone. They underline the meaning and significance of the moment and, to a great extent, determine what and how situations will be approached. But since they are also ephemeral, constantly shifting and changing, not just from day to day, but from moment to moment, they make a consistent spiritual life very difficult.

In the ordinary world of work moods can more easily be dealt with. The task in hand assumes an overriding importance.  Children have to be fed, got to school, work has to be prepared, meetings attended etc. One is forced one to put self and feelings on one side and distance the mind from them. The occasional periods of meditation then become a welcome escape to an oasis of calm, peaceful tranquillity. Because these moments are breaks in a very different routine they lack a sense of progression. The routine sets the tone and the pace. The breaks in it are just momentary interludes, each one unique, a new beginning. It is when one tries to integrate the two by meditating regularly every day that the difficulty arises. Then the volatile moods and feelings generated by the routine world intrude into the interludes of meditation. Because during meditation there is no demanding task in hand to occupy the attention the moods and feelings take on a commanding dominance. Faithful adherence to the techniques of meditation – saying the mantra, counting the breaths, etc., can cope with them during meditation and distance them to a certain extent. But once the period of meditation is over mindfulness becomes increasingly difficult to maintain.

In the framework of the monastic enclosure and the Rule, dealing with the roller coaster ride of moods and feelings is not quite such a problem. The routine of Divine Office, work and lectio divina, by its very monotony and the very restricted variety of situations it provides, can have the opposite effect and generate a numbing and all-pervading mood of accidie, a problem that greatly exercised the ancient monks. I suspect that the root of this was a preoccupation with self. Much of Christian spirituality is bedevilled by an obsession with attaining an idealised self, pure and unblemished, an ethereal being with no trace of carnality. 

My problem is neither of these. As I am retired I can order my day pretty much as I please. Family life makes demands, especially during the holidays, but these are not problems. My problem is myself. How do I maintain mindfulness throughout the day?

 A thought struck me – that the key is doing good. It is not enough spending hours in payer and meditation. Solitude and the eremitical life, however much they may appeal to some, are not the natural state of man. It is relationships which make us. Love is creative and life giving, literally. It is in the outpouring of love to others that we become most fully what we are meant to be. ‘God became man so that man might become God,’ Athanasius said. God is self-emptying love. There is so much contained in the ideas love, kenosis, sunyata, and developing it is not something that can be done just through philosophical analysis. It has to be lived.